Before I start let me just take a minute to say a very Big thank you for all the birthday love and wishes God bless you 🙏🙏🙏 You can read my birthday post here
Sometime last month, a very dear person, who I admire so much and mentioned in this post Tade reached out to me, and asked to join the Global Infertility Awareness Week and I was like sure! Am in… After the conversation I passingly asked God what to write, even though I had a plan of just doing the sequel to “dear waiting mom” .
Fast forward to yesterday morning while I was having my birthday thanksgiving dance, these words dropped in my mind “We are all Adopted” and by the time I was done, I figured it was the answer to that passing prayer I said Last Month and what He would have me talk about is ADOPTION.
I strongly believe it’s because of one person having a hard time making that call/decision, due to shame and fear of the unknown. This is for you and I sincerely hope that you get to read this and it blesses you.
P.S please if you are that person it would mean a lot if you can just send me an email, so I can help you through this and find you the right support you need. Thank you.
“AIN’T WE ALL ADOPTED”
Before I start I need to drop this first, see there’s nothing wrong or unscriptural about adoption! It’s not a sign that you have giving up on the fact that you can actually have your own child/children for those still trying to have one. And for those who already have kids it’s not a sign that you have too much money and you don’t know what to do with it.
I am a strong believer that every child deserves to have a home they can call theirs. And this is what Adoption simply put means to me; giving a child a chance to experience Love, as we have received from God, when He adopted us into his family through Jesus Christ. I believe this is what Paul was explaining in Ephesians 1:5-6 “Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son”.
If you are close to me you must have heard me say one of my children would be adopted! It’s wasn’t even something up for a debate, I know I personally have the responsibility to show a child the love he/she deserves just as I have received from God. And during my courtship days, it was the first thing I laid on the table. As God will have it, my husband had also nurtured same idea, the only thing we discussed was number what would he/she be, I said I wanted it to be my number one, he said he/she should be our last born, so our other children will understand why we are doing what we are doing, and probably carry it on as one of our family values.
I know with adoption one thing people struggle with a lot is, what if the real parent come asking for them? This has always been my response, first and foremost with adoption there’s a need for openness and communication. Tell the child who you are, why you adopted him or her and the possibilities of another mom or dad come knocking someday or not. However the decision to go with them or go find them solely lies with him/her and will get your full support whenever that time comes and whatever decision he/she makes. You do the same for your biological kids as well, so they know and understand why you are doing what you are doing.
However, I got a different understanding about answering that question yesterday. The scriptures says children are a gift from God. So whether adopted or not, that child is a gift to you… So why worry about the channel and not the giver? which is God! Quit worrying and start trusting. It is God that makes home for the homeless according to Psalm 68:5-6. So if he makes your home the home for that homeless child, who or what do you think can come and uproot that same child from your home? #foodforthought.
It’s not a thing of shame to adopt, and it’s not giving up on God as well! The scriptures says in James 1:27 The religion that God our father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after the orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. This verse says a lot, it’s shows the value God places on orphans and widows. Please don’t let what people have said concerning adoption pollute your mind, yours is different because you are in it with God, so it’s certain that your result and testimony will be different as well.
Lastly, I know sometimes we all struggle with “what will people say”? The honest and bitter truth however is the fact that whatever we do, people will always have something to say. What should matter the most to us is, what God will have us do and doing it, Irrespective! And in the words of King Sunny Ade, LET THEM SAY!!! As long as you have aligned with God and you are certain you are doing his will. Biko who their talk epp? 😂😂😂😂
Dear Waiting Mom & Dad, my message to you, in this Global Infertility Awareness Week is Rest! *God go do am* (God will do it). And to my Dear Concerned Family and Friends, make the journey easy for waiting parents. Trust me you can not know half of what they are dealing with, except you’ve gone through same yourself and the truth is, because they look calm does not mean you are more concerned than them. All they need is your support, please give it in love! and respect every decision they decide to take. Thank you.
P.S if you want to find out how you can be a part of the Global Infertility Awareness Week, all you have to do is send a Picture of Yourself, Name, Location (City and Country), and a quote of what you would like to say to people dealing with infertility to email@example.com. Thank you 😘
Till My Next Post; Spread Love…
For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba! Father!” Romans 8:15