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Dear Waiting Mum…

Dear Waiting Mum…

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dear waiting mum

Dear Waiting Mum,

Do not let anyone talk you down the guilt lane.

No! it’s not your fault that you’ve been married all these years and you don’t have children of your own.

No! God is not punishing you for anything.

No! Your life shouldn’t STOP!

No! You are not doing anything wrong.

It’s not the position either!

Just in case you are wondering…

Yes! You have every right to be Happy!

Yes! You have the right to have fun, look good and hang out.

Yes! You will be a joyful mother of children in God’s Perfect Time!

Dear Waiting Mum,

The truth is some days would be tougher than some…

Days, when your menstruation decides to show up despite putting action behind your faith by not buying sanitary pads for that month…

Days, when you struggle to congratulate a friend, colleague, family member who just gave birth, not because you are not happy for them but it just makes you feel like “Baba God when will you pick my call ke!” and off course the comment that comes after the congratulatory message “ti yin nor a de oo (yours will come too)” which always make you wonder if it will ever come…

Days, when the pregnancy test results comes back negative…

Days, when you are afraid of attending family functions because of those stares that speaks louder than words…

Days, when you won’t just stop crying, cos another wedding anniversary is just around the corner…

Days, when that precious seed growing inside of you decides not to stay/stay again…

Days, when all you get is “when will you stop doing sisi and get pregnant? you look pregnant in that picture, are you pregnant? you don’t even look like you looking for a child, see the way you are always happy! not knowing you just finished crying.

Dear Waiting Mum,

whilst undoubtedly, this period may be the most challenging phase of your life, don’t allow it to BREAK YOU! refuse to become a shadow of yourself, find the right support! and rest in this truth “you will not be tempted beyond what you can bear” This is the answer to that why me lord question; it is you! because your maker knows you can handle it, even though it may seem like you are crumbling under this heavy weight of infertility, it won’t crush you!

Gold needs to go through fire to test and purify it, this too will pass and you will come out more refined and off course with your babies…

I hope and Pray that this post makes you feel a lot better today and also helps you find the courage and strength to live again! fulfill purpose and rest in God’s truth and promise that He will make you a mother of many nations irrespective of the doctor’s report or the age factor.

Till my next post stay Awesome!

“But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31”

Have you ever had to wait on God for anything? Have you received it? what did you do during your waiting period? Do share below in the comment section, it might be all that someone needs to hear.

LT.

27 Comments

  1. Fifi
    January 2, 2017 at 10:11 am

    Waiting is never easy, but the waiting period can be used for growth and preparation. It’s important to trust that God knows what he’s doing and allow him to work. He’s really never late

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 2, 2017 at 10:36 am

      Absolutely 👌🏽 Thank you for sharing

  2. Okovwurie Nkiru
    January 2, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    I love this post so much… I’ve had days and seasons when i had to wait for ‘gifts’ i though i could get at a snap of a finger.
    There was anger, pride( I refused to beg baba God; lol), anger, frustration and plenty of faith( as at then i thought was not producing result) . but through it all, I’ve learnt strength of character, not to base my joy on what is or whats not happening, peace. Above all i’ve grown and more solid( sincerely Zuma rock can’t compete with my strength).

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 2, 2017 at 5:46 pm

      Thank you for joining the conversation Nkiru. Indeed, waiting helps build our strength and help us to grow.

  3. Irene
    January 2, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    Waiting well means waiting with joy for the manifestation of what we are expecting will happen. It is so important to guard our hearts from anxiety and agitating fears in the season of waiting. It takes a concerted and determined effort to keep your joy and peace. The peace of God surpasses all human understanding is what we hold on to and the joy of knowing He is faithful to His promises. Hold fast to peace, joy and hope as you begin rejoice in advance for what you are waiting for.
    Blessings to you.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 2, 2017 at 5:43 pm

      Mummy thank you so much for contributing…

  4. Peju
    January 2, 2017 at 7:45 pm

    I love this write up,mostly because you touched some key points that resonate with me and should to all waiting mums and none alike.

    – Don’t let it break you
    -Gosh those dreaded congratulatory messages that come with ‘ Ti e na a de ooo’ (might as well place a bullseye right on my forehead😏)
    – Holding unto GOD (to whom shall we go?)
    Thanks for sharing

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 2, 2017 at 10:16 pm

      No One except God! Thanks for sharing your thoughts too…

  5. Eniola
    January 2, 2017 at 9:33 pm

    Waiting in itself is for a purpose! The experience makes the joy thereafter (and the testimony that it represents) even greater and a source of strength to others; ultimately glorifying God!

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 2, 2017 at 10:11 pm

      Absolutely… Thank you for sharing

  6. Adeleke
    January 2, 2017 at 10:24 pm

    Lara…you are a thoughtful darling! Throngs of women out there need a support base to carry them through this trying experience.

    Thanks for being a comforting voice to those aching hearts. I’m definitely sharing this to Facebook and Instagram!

    Waiting time is not wasting time. While you wait, close in on vision. Another intense thing is to apply Job’s strategy: pray for others in the same situation. It works. Like you said, this too will pass. Remember we are not serving God for bread and butter; if He gives the babies or not, He remains our God. Getting to that point is very key!!!

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 2, 2017 at 10:33 pm

      Leke!Thank you for sharing… Very Insightful.

  7. Aderonke
    January 3, 2017 at 10:51 am

    I love this write up Lara. I waited 2 years to have my first child and those 2 years seemed like 20years. I always believed getting pregnant would be easy peezy but it wasnt so. I went through all the phases you described in your post. Somedays, i wanted to disappear. Otherdays i told God “Just let me experience what it FEELS like”. I did experience it but at 9 weeks, there was no heart beat and i was advised to be on bed rest. 2 days later, i had a miscarriage and i went NUMB, i felt NOTHING. I told myself ” God hates me. Nothing i do will be enough for him” . Right in the hospital, a minister went for rounds and reassured me that indeed God loves me and sometimes allows us to go through TESTS for a greater TESTIMONY. He also said someday, your story will give someone else the confidence they need to wait. I stopped worrying, allowed myself to find joy in other things, i stopped asking God to bless me with a baby. Instead, i raised up my praise game. I got pregnant 3 months later and today, 7 years later i have 2 kids. A boy and a girl. Sometimes anxiety is a thief of our blessings. Its not easy but its always rewarding when we cast our cares upon God. Praise is a catalyst.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 3, 2017 at 11:08 am

      Whaooooooooooooo… Thank you so much Ronke for sharing this amazing testimony! Indeed the Test was for a greater Testimony!You have just giving someone the confidence they need to wait. Thank you

    • Bebe
      January 3, 2017 at 2:43 pm

      Couldn’t have said it better.

  8. Desola
    January 3, 2017 at 11:18 am

    Thanks sisto for your thoughts. Quite touching and inspiring. To even think everyone waits for one thing or another; for job, financial breakthrough, healing, business breakthrough etc. We all wait for some sort of answer.

    But in all our waiting, God is always God, we need to keep our eyes right on Him every second, in our thoughts, words and acts. Now has He said it and not performed? Never! He said be fruitful and multiply. Replenish the earth.

    Whilst we expect, let’s faith our wait. Behave as though it’s done. My father in the Lord admonished mothers to write the names of their kids down during a program. Do so, write it down, price baby materials, buy some, plan the naming ceremony in your head, answer Mummy, thank God daily for your children. Know that God can never fail. He said in Matthew that if your earthly father knows how to give you fish an bread (good things), how much more your heavenly Father. He knows your need and will never deny you. And they have not born that devil to deny you either. So put your faith to work. Just believe, nothing else.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 3, 2017 at 11:37 am

      Whaooo… Thank you Sola for joining in the conversation and adding your insight.

  9. Bebe
    January 3, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    Lovely post. I relate to every word you wrote. God is in control.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 3, 2017 at 5:39 pm

      Yes oooo… He’s in control!

  10. Maiarray
    January 3, 2017 at 5:29 pm

    May we learn to wait for God’s precious gifts with joy..no matter what our expectations.. Knowing that God does make EVERYTHING beautiful ITS time.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 3, 2017 at 5:34 pm

      Absolutely!!! Indeed He makes all things beautiful in its time. Thank you Pastor Lolo for joining in the conversation.

  11. Toyeen
    January 7, 2017 at 11:22 pm

    Wowwwww, well said sis, we should never be anxious of nothing because he sees and know all things only him knows the perfect time which is the beautiful time.I am proud of who you have become.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 8, 2017 at 4:51 am

      awww… Thanks sis 💋 💋

  12. Tos
    January 12, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    This is an inspiring post as I have waited to conceive and I cannot even wish it for my enemy It becomes worse when you have had a miscarriage and then you keep waiting and all the tests come back negative then you start to regret why you lost that one and feel bad you were never a good mum in the first place but trust me when that time will come, you will never expect it. It will be like a flashlight and all the storms will be calm. Good I stumbled on your blog…I love your layout btw can you tell me where and how you got them? would like to use something similar aswell that is if you can share anyways…*hugs*

    • LaraTESHOLA
      January 12, 2017 at 5:02 pm

      Awww… Thank you for joining the conversation and the kind words. I think you can buy the theme am using from themeforest.net and am using wordpress.

  13. Miz
    April 2, 2017 at 2:09 am

    How did I miss this post? This truly got me going. Thanks sis for always delivering the good stuffs just when they are needed. I’ve learnt to become proactive while waiting. And I know for sure he won’t leave his own, nothing happens without his knowing.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 2, 2017 at 3:56 am

      My Sister 💋💋💋 Am glad this helped…

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