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Know Your Strength,Ask For Help,Prioritize;The Balance Conversation

Know Your Strength,Ask For Help,Prioritize;The Balance Conversation


I honestly cannot believe my last post is over a week now 😩😩😩😩… I have been busy with school work, I hardly have time for any other thing (begining to sound like a broken record with this my busy excuse ba?) But, it really got me thinking, how do some women cope and still manage to do it all?. This became a pointer to the fact that it was time for me to start the “Conversation Series” which we are kicking off with the “Uncommon Woman” Ifeoma Chuks-Adizue. Iphie as we all call her, is a wife, mother of 3 amazing kids, Career woman and Entrepreneur

Know Your Strength, Ask For Help, Prioritize; The Balance Conversation

She is also the Co-Founder/Managing Partner at Deluxe Childbirth Services – a maternity concierge firm focused on linking expectant parents to excellent but affordable childbirth options in the USA. Her firm has helped facilitate the birth of over 300 babies in the US; including 4 sets of twins and 1 set of triplets. In partnership with the USAID and UNFPA, her firm has also done work in improving maternal care in the IDP camps of Northern Nigeria.

Iphie also has over 11 years’ experience in Brand Management, Media, Sales; as well as in driving global brands to growth across West and East Africa. She is the founder of Sheer Virtuosity and convener of the Thrive Women Summit coming up on May 1st with theme ‘The Uncommon Woman’. She is very passionate about helping women realize their full potential whilst maintaining stability in their heads, homes, and relationships.

I have always wondered how she’s able to have it all together and still remain very calm, and then my curiosity even grew the more these past couple of months, here I was, no kids, just me, my course, my business and my husband and I can barely even cook nor get my work space in order 😆😆😆😆 so I turned to Iphie to ask “How do you manage to wear and balance it all”? with a couple of other questions.

Me: Iphie ooo, how do you manage being a mom, wife, entrepreneur, work, ministry, planning the Thrive Women Summit and balance it all and still remain so calm 😩😩😩?

Iphie: Truthfully….it is by God’s grace and with lots of wisdom. Knowing your strengths, Prioritizing, Delegating, and Asking for Help have been key for me. I know my strengths and my capacity, when I get over-stretched consistently, I ask or look for help. Getting overstretched is not bad as it actually helps you build capacity but when it becomes continuous, then you need to seek support.

I’ve also learnt to be sensitive to the phases in my life and what is most important in that phase; and then I focus on that. If my family needs me, then that becomes my focus for that time. I also rarely have more than 1-2 big projects per quarter that need my full undivided attention.

Lastly at work, I always have clear personal deliverables per month and a daily to-do list. I rarely take work home so I focus on closing as much work as possible while in the office.

Me: So how do you seek support? 

Iphie: I regularly engage my husband on all my projects and ask for help. For example, If I will have a crazy work week, I talk it with him beforehand so he can be more understanding and supportive. Of course, this is easier to do and get results when you have also been supportive of your spouse in the past and express appreciation for even the little things he does. I also have help on the home front with the children and the daily operations of my house.

Me: You mentioned earlier, that over the years, you’ve learnt to be sensitive to the phases in your life, can you share what phase you are right now? 

Iphie: The most recent phase of my life started when I had to take considerable time off work to take care of my son. In those months off full-time employment, I also focused attention on my business (Deluxe Childbirth) and ministry – Sheer Virtuosity which is all about developing uncommon woman of skill, strength, and substance. During that time, I ran free trainings and coached several women on how to create and grow multiple income sources; but I still felt unfulfilled. I was confused and went back to God who simply told me He did not ask me to do those things. LOL!!!! It was not this funny then but that conversation birthed the “Thrive Women Summit’ as one of the tools for Sheer Virtuosity to deliver on its objective of raising uncommon women.

Know Your Strength, Ask For Help, Prioritize; The Balance Conversation

Me: Tell me a bit about the Thrive Women Summit, cos I know there’s a lot of buzz about it already on Social Media.

Iphie: During that conversation where God told me He did not ask me to do all the trainings and coaching I had been doing, I asked Him what He would rather have me do instead. He told me to host an event for 1000 women with the theme – The Uncommon Woman. He also said the event should be free but with valuable content that these women would ordinarily have paid for. He gave me the speakers, the date and pretty much the location.

So, the Thrive Women Summit is a Training conference focused on equipping today’s woman with the practical skills and tips to start on her journey to being an Uncommon woman – a woman graced with the strength, skill and substance for uncommon results and impact in her life, home and nation. As expected, it is powered by Sheer Virtuosity.

Me: Oh whaoooo… So, when, where, timings, speakers? 

Iphie: The event will hold this Workers Day holiday. So that’s the 1st of May 2017 at Harbour Point Event Centre Victoria Island Lagos, Nigeria. It will be a full day of training starting by 9am with sessions on the Identity of the Uncommon Woman, the Uncommon Woman and her Home, Money, Works, and God. Confirmed speakers for now include Omilola Oshikoya, Rev. Laurie Idahosa, Pst. Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo and of course my humble self. Efe Nathan will also be leading the worship session.

Know Your Strength,Ask For Help,Prioritize;The Balance Conversation

Me: Chaiii, you see why I miss Nigeria so much 😩😩😩…  na so I go miss this conference so 😩😩😩. For those of us in the diaspora, how do we connect to this conference, abi we are not part of the 1000 women ni?

Iphie: LOL!!! We over-have all our diaspora sisters in mind o! Plan for now is to have the recordings available for sale after the event on the Sheer Virtuosity website.

Me: I am still curious sha, I am sure there have been challenging times wearing all these hats, how have you handled them? 

Iphie: Of course, there have been challenging times wearing all these hats but I’ve learnt though that it’s like learning a new skill – it is always most difficult when you just start out. As you keep practicing and growing, you develop more capability and wisdom to easily manoeuvre what would ordinarily have been very challenging to you initially.

One of the most challenging phases of my life wearing all these hats was in 2012 when I really started taking on more. In that year, I finally started my business in addition to my full-time job, three young children under 3 years and my ‘wifely’ responsibilities. I made several mistakes and learnt from them. I cried many times and almost gave up but in the end, it has all turned out beautiful as I learnt to continually secure my husband’s support and God’s grace to daily see me through.

Me: I had wanted to mention, that I know Deluxe didn’t start until 2012, at what point did you know you were supposed to be doing all of these?

Iphie: December 28th 2010. I was in the US to have my second baby. The year was coming to an end and I was reviewing my life. In the first quarter of that year, I had survived an ectopic pregnancy that almost took my life. Yet despite having one fallopian tube, here I was at the end of the same year over 36 weeks pregnant. I knew God had spared me for a reason and I desperately wanted to start living in purpose. I knew my purpose but I did not know how to get there as it seemed like I was stuck in a ‘routine’ life – work, home, church. I wanted more. I wanted to DO and BE more.

On that day, I started a heart-to-heart conversation with God that ultimately led to me identifying my strengths as well as the first steps I needed to take to start living purposefully and touching my world from the story of the Virtuous Woman. Living purposefully is not just mere actions but impacting lives and showing a unique aspect of God’s love to people.

It was from this session that the idea to start my business (Deluxe Childbirth Services) and women ministry (Sheer Virtuosity) came. Today Deluxe Childbirth which is focused on reducing the incidence of maternal mortality in developing countries has helped birth over 300 babies in the US and has even partnered with internal agencies like USAID and UNFPA to improve maternal care in the IDP camps in Nigeria.

By God’s grace, come May 1st, Sheer Virtuosity will also fully start its journey to developing all round women of success – uncommon women of skill, strength and substance – thanks to the Thrive Women Summit.

Me: Awwww Iphie, thank you so much for your time, I really appreciate this, God bless you plenty. I will include your website and Instagram account just in case someone needs to slide into your DM after reading this…lol

Iphie: No problem dear

Just incase you want to slide into her DM or Inbox, here’s her details

Instagram: @iphieadizue @sheervirtuosityintl


Let me just drop this here, I have been able to cook ooooo, since I had this conversation with her 😆😆😆 Even though hubby has been super supportive as well. A one thing that really stuck out though for me is “Understanding the Phase one is per-time, and not taking too much on at a go, focus on that one or two thing and give it your all, that way you don’t wear yourself out and whoever is supporting you as well”

What is your own take home from this conversation? did you find it helpful? what conversation would you want me to have next? as always please drop a comment would love to hear from you.

Till my next post; Thrive…

Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:4



  1. Giwanson Oyeyinka
    April 20, 2017 at 6:26 pm

    Wow! Thanks for sharing LT. I will register for the summit and also try as much as possible to attend. Chao!

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 22, 2017 at 4:38 am

      Thank you so much dear…

  2. Olubusola Adedayo
    April 21, 2017 at 7:38 am

    That was a good read….am at a point in my life where a lot of balancing is needed.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 22, 2017 at 4:37 am

      Awwwww… Am glad it helped Busola. If you can as well try to attend the conference…

  3. Kunbi Niyi-Olasunkanmi
    April 21, 2017 at 12:49 pm

    Thank you so much Lara for sharing this. I’ll register for the Summit right away. I am at a point where I feel like I need to DO and BE more. I’m sure I’ll learn alot from the training.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 22, 2017 at 4:35 am

      Awwww… Kunbi Thank you for stopping by. I am sure you will dear.

    April 21, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    This is amazing interview with Iphie. Very insightful and helpful too. I love that she found her purpose through her pain. God is faithful. This made me smile as I could relate.
    God first and every other thing follows. I love the fact that she has a partner who is on board to help. This makes a lot of difference.
    I do hope you find balance yourself. Do what you can and keep succeeding.
    Thanks for sharing

    M |

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 22, 2017 at 4:31 am

      Thank you so much Moji.

  5. Miri
    April 21, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    Hi Omolara,

    Thank you for sharing with us. If I lived in Lagos, I would definitely come!

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 22, 2017 at 4:30 am

      Awwww… Thank you for stopping by. You can always get to watch the conference afterwards.

  6. the Fashion Matters
    April 22, 2017 at 2:20 pm

    That was useful 🙂

    The Fashion Matters– Travel & Fashion Blog

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 23, 2017 at 4:55 am

      AWWWW… I am glad you found it useful.

  7. Olabisi Oyesola
    April 22, 2017 at 2:23 pm

    Mama thanks for this, as if you know what am passing through…With this I feel much better now. Learnt a lot😘😘

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 23, 2017 at 4:56 am

      Awwwww… Thank you so much mama. I am glad you found it very helpful.

  8. Funmi
    April 23, 2017 at 11:38 pm

    Hey darling, this post is absolutely great! Balance sure is important.

    Funmi x

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 27, 2017 at 2:30 pm

      Thank you Funmi…

  9. OgoDesh
    April 25, 2017 at 8:01 am

    Thank you for sharing this inspiring conversation. I enjoyed reading every word of it and it truly felt like Iphie was talking right in front of me 🙂 Looking forward to the next one!

    P.S I should comment more. Your posts are awesome! xoxo

    • LaraTESHOLA
      April 27, 2017 at 2:31 pm

      Yes Please!!!! You should comment more…lol. Thank you Sis for stopping by.

  10. Pamela Sams
    May 10, 2017 at 6:04 pm

    “as you keep practicing and growing, you develop more capability and wisdom to easily manoeuvre what would ordinarily have been very challenging to you initially” this line speaks to me. Thank God for supportive partners too. Men who understand what God has confidently placed in the hearts and hands of their wives and set out to help them fulfill it.
    This conversation has been very helpful. Thank you Sis Lara for initiating this series. God bless you richly ❤.

    • LaraTESHOLA
      May 28, 2017 at 2:54 am

      Awwwww Love… All thanks to God oooo.

  11. Naomi Destiny
    June 4, 2017 at 7:17 pm

    I had to come back to read this and drop my comment. Some women are indeed so powerful and strong…actually we all are. The major thing is to find your place, know your strength, make sure are aligned with purpose and with where God wants you to be. And also listen for his voice while in a state of confusion…this is one key thing I picked from this conversation. Thank you LT! You have such a beautiful heart!

    • LaraTESHOLA
      June 7, 2017 at 10:16 am

      awwwww… Thank you!!! You sure have a beautiful heart as well

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