There is far more to your life than the food you put in your stomach, more to your outer appearance than the clothes you hang on your body… Matthew 6:25
Look at the wildflowers, they never primp or shop, but have you ever seen color and design quite like it? If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers most of which are never even seen, don’t you think he will attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? Matthew 6: 28-30
“Lara, how can I not worry? Look at all my mates, they are doing this and doing that, if you check their social media page, they wear only designers, they are not worrying about where the next meal will come from, they have it all together! Most of my friends are married, they have children, look at me I am so and so age, no boyfriend not to talk of husband, I have been married for so and so years no children, every one that has gotten married after me have so and so number of children…..”
I remember after my diploma in OSU, (Now Olabisi Onabanjo University) Admission wasn’t coming through, and my family said I have to return to Lagos, “take jamb and start afresh!” I felt really bad, but I got a confirmation from God that he wanted me to leave and so I was back in Lagos. Then my family insisted that I take jamb lessons, I was like “common guys! I have a diploma already, why will I go and take jamb lessons, I can read on my own.”
I got enrolled in this school, where they take jamb lessons. On this particular day, a boy in Senior Secondary Class slapped the diploma ego out of me…lol. Everyone around, including the principal and teachers rose to defend me cos they knew I was very quite, though I was like a shinning star cos I was way ahead of the others,( perhaps, that was the reason for the beef – my opinion though). I cried all the way home, not because of the slap, but because of the humiliation. My Aunt had to follow me to the school to join the host of defendants… Long story cut short, the dude earned a suspension from school, but that didn’t heal my hurt.
I was broken, I was worried, I cried, I asked God why is putting me through those test – first by asking me to leave OSU and then allowing me to be embarrassed? Those periods were not the best of periods for me, but thank Good for my Aunt’s constant encouragement. Those were days when it was difficult to focus in the place of prayer or study because I was seriously overtaken by worries…
Finally, I passed JAMB in flying colors and then I had my post JAMB University of Lagos. While I was awaiting the result, someone suggested this private university again in Ibadan (it had first been suggested by one of my hostel mate back in OSU). At this time, my worries took another dimension because of thefinancial implication of that option; but because God had it planned from day one, He ensured provision was made (That’s a story for another day).
One thing I can say is God’s timing is never late, He’s the only one that knows the end of a matter from the beginning. I stayed back home for the period of time He made me, for reasons that was made known years later… Looking back today, I am super grateful for those years, because it built my relationship with God! And that I won’t even trade for anything in this world.
Now, let me tell you a 2 things that triggered my worry back then and a few “truth” I realised:
WORRY ONE: LOOKING AT OTHERS SUCCESS.
I assumed that, all my secondary school friends that we graduated together was in Uni and I was the only one still sitting at home. And that my friend, was a big fat lie! The truth however, was that even after I started working I had a few Secondary School mate in the Uni.
TRUTH ONE: TRUE SUCCESS IS DOING THE WILL OF GOD.
You see, one of the weapon the enemy use to keep us depressed or in a worrisome state is to make us feel like a failure, like we are the only one left behind, he shows us just a few things in a flash…
He defines success to us, as having the good things of life Matthew 4:8. Society tells us that, being at par with our peers or even doing better, is what success is all about . However, the truth is, though we may be similar ( we grew up together, went to the same school, we are of same sex, we were raised by single parents, e.t.c) our journey is different!. We are called unto different works, and the higher definition of success is knowing what God has called me to do, and doing it!
WORRY TWO: MY SET GOALS/TIMING.
I had certain goals that clearly wasn’t going to happen and it fraustrated the living day out of me!. A few of such plans was; Finish University at the age of 20, get married at age 23 Max, be done with having kids at 26/27 and face my career head on making a good name for myself and family.
TRUTH TWO: GOD’S TIMING AND PLANS IS WAY BETTER.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s an amazing thing to set goals for oneself, but even when those goals ain’t happening at the time we wished, it shouldn’t steal our joy. We should rest and trust in God’s timing! He won’t come too early, nor too late, He’s always right on time… Jeremiah 29:11
Today, when I look at those goals, they were really a joke compared to what God as set before me and helped me to achieve/accomplish. Most of those goals were just all about me, me and me, and was set based on the expectations or definition of what the society regards as a perfect life.
What am trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. Steep your life in God’s reality, God’s initiative, God’s provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. Matthew 6:31 (MSG)
Till my next post; quit worrying!
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