First, let me apologise for publishing this post this late… I couldn’t get it out last month and I thought it wouldn’t be a bad idea, publishing it on my brother’s 40th Birthday which is today 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻. Happy Birthday Brother Busayo, this post is dedicated to you. Thank you for your Love and Acceptance. I pray this new year yields it’s good fruits unto you. Love from Tesh and I.
How is that even possible? That no one knows if he’s dead or alive. What if he’s dead? How come God asked me to go look for him, knowing no one knows where he was? Whilst that had me bothered a bit, it didn’t last long, I was excited that I was at least reconnecting with my Dad’s family. My uncle was also very excited hearing from us ( even though at this point my sister wasn’t interested at all, because she was angry with my dad and by extension the rest of his people)
My uncle sent my brother’s number to me, even though we haven’t met, I’ve heard a lot about them and was excited to call. I spoke with them, Brother Jide and Busayo, oh! what a joy. Brother Busayo mentioned he was in Kano but comes to Lagos from time to time, I was so happy, I couldn’t wait to meet him.
I went to see my uncle at his place, this time I didn’t get lost and I had enough transport fare 😆😆😆 I spent the weekend didn’t want to leave, we caught up on all the lost times and memories, I told him what I wanted to do, and oh let me just drop this here, my Uncle gave me my first training fees for Makeup ( you see it’s been a long time coming I don’t know why I haven’t blown yet ooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂) and I am very grateful.
I finally got to meet brother Jide, it was a very short meeting, I remember we were standing at Alaguntan bus stop around Iyana-Ipaja axis. I asked about Dad and he was like the last he heard was about a wife and kid, and nobody seem to know where He was. In my head I was like Wawuu so I have been stripped of my last born rights from his side 😆😆😆
Met a couple of more family members at a family function that Uncle Deji invited us to. Met my Grandma, that my mom says I look like, my Aunties, Uncles, Cousins and Inlaws. I also finally got to meet Brother Busayo,(though not at this family function) it was one of the weirdest moments 😆😆😆 ( what this my daddy caused ehnn 😆😆😆) we had agreed to meet at my Uncle’s place, and for some reason, we got to the bus stop at the same time, and were walking towards the same direction, checking each other out 😂😂😂😂 to avoid being forward we both faced our lane 😂😂😂 until we got to my uncle’s gate 😂😂😂. It was an awesome moment though, I also met his wife, then fiancé Sister Seyi, best sister In Law ever liveth chai, she knows how to make my head swell and she took good care of me while I was serving in Zamfara. God blessed them with my look alike last year after 8years of waiting, she was 1 on the 15th of March. I hope one day, she will allow me share her waiting journey.
So fast forward to one early morning in 2007, Brother Jide called and said ” Dad just Walked into Badaru ( Badaru is my grandfather’s house in surulere and by extension the family house), if I would like to see him maybe I should start coming because no one knows how long he’s going to be there for” he also gave me a number I could reach him. My heart started beating fast, it was the moment I have been waiting and praying for, the wait was finally over… I called the number and got the shocker of my life.
My dad was very cold on the phone, I was heart broken after the call ended I cried! I asked God why? This wasn’t the reception I expected. I called my mom, crying and she felt really bad, she was like why are you crying? Have I not been there for you? That made me feel even worse, I realized I had also hurt her feelings. I asked her if I could go see him, and she said No! After my conversation with my mom, I poured out my heart to God, I told him how hurt I was and I told him that I was done trying, so he should sort it out.
And that was exactly what He did… My dad and I got talking and we became very fond of each other, we finally met January 2008, and I asked him all the questions you can possibly imagine mostly the Why questions…
Every one finally came around forgiving him except for one of his daughters. However, two things I am eternally grateful for is the opportunity of meeting him before he passed on and of course getting to meet my husband just a month before he passed. I am also grateful that I didn’t only find my Dad, I found his wonderful family and my Amazing Siblings.
I hope this journey helps someone, who might just be going through same. I pray for strength and grace to go through it, as you walk this road of forgiveness and reunion. Selah
Till my next post; Believe.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Matthew 6:34